Relationship & Attachment Therapy in NYC
“I want closeness, but I’m afraid of being too much or not enough.”
When Connection Feels Unsteady
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Relationship and attachment therapy is grounded in attachment theory, a well-researched framework that explains how early relationships shape how we connect, trust, and feel safe with others throughout our lives.
Attachment theory shows that humans are wired for connection. Based on early caregiving experiences, we develop attachment styles that influence how we relate to others especially in close, romantic relationships.
Research identified four primary attachment styles:
Secure Attachment develops when care is responsive and consistent. People with secure attachment tend to feel comfortable with intimacy and independence.
Anxious Attachment often develops when care is inconsistent. This can lead to fear of abandonment, over-giving, and heightened sensitivity in relationships.
Avoidant Attachment can form when care is emotionally unavailable or rejecting. This may show up as discomfort with closeness or reliance on independence.
Disorganized Attachment can develop in environments that felt frightening or unsafe, often leading to mixed or conflicting relational behaviors.
These attachment styles don’t disappear in adulthood. In adult relationships, partners often become attachment figures. When attachment wounds are present, relationships can feel confusing, unbalanced, or emotionally unsafe even when there is love and desire for connection.
Relationship and attachment therapy helps you understand your attachment style, recognize how it shows up in your relationships, and begin building safer, more secure ways of connecting without over-giving, self-abandonment, or constant anxiety.
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You may benefit from this work if you notice:
Feeling anxious or preoccupied in relationships
Over-giving or putting your partner’s needs before your own
Fear of abandonment or rejection
Difficulty trusting others or yourself in relationships
Staying in relationships that don’t feel emotionally safe
Struggling to communicate needs or boundaries
Feeling responsible for maintaining the relationship
Pulling away or shutting down when things feel vulnerable
Attachment wounds often show up most clearly in close relationships.
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Relationship and attachment therapy helps you build safer, more secure ways of connecting.
In therapy, we work on:
Identifying your attachment patterns and where they developed
Healing relational wounds that keep repeating
Learning how to express needs without fear or self-abandonment
Developing boundaries that protect connection instead of ending it
Tolerating closeness without panic or withdrawal
Building relationships rooted in honesty, safety, and mutual care
The goal isn’t perfection it’s secure, grounded connection.
My Approach:
I work with women who want deeper, healthier relationships but find themselves stuck in familiar patterns that don’t feel good.
Many of my clients learned early on that love meant over-functioning, staying alert, or earning closeness through care-taking. These patterns often show up as anxious attachment, people-pleasing, or staying in relationships that feel unbalanced.
In our work together, we don’t blame or shame these patterns. We focus on understanding them with compassion and learning new ways to stay connected without losing yourself.
My approach to relationship and attachment therapy is:
Attachment-informed and trauma-aware, honoring where these patterns began
Focused on nervous system regulation, so closeness feels safer
Relational and practical, with tools you can use in real relationships
Centered on emotional safety, not control or self-sacrifice
I’m a good fit for women who want to heal attachment wounds, stop over-giving, and build relationships that feel steady, reciprocal, and honest.
Together, we work toward helping you experience connection that feels secure and not anxiety-driven and relationships where you don’t have to disappear to be loved.
